I think that impulse comes from our fear. Fear of being seen as foolish or stupid. Saying something dorky and being shamed. Real conversation requires vulnerability and that is scary!
Here’s one way to create a pause in a challenging exchange. We can always listen, then pause, saying something like Huh! Now that’s interesting. Let me think about that for a moment.
Then take three slow deep breaths, if you can, through the nose. Let each breath be a bit longer than the previous one. See if you can extend each exhale longer than the inhale. On the third breath, pause if you can and hold the breath for a moment or two, then slowly releasing, letting go. Then offer your response.
What do you do to maintain a mindful awareness in conversation with others? Share in the comments what works for you.
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