These kids know what we grownups need to remember, that no matter what we do in our work and home and civic lives, anger never helps anyone. We can transform the energy. We can do better. We must.
Doesn’t mean we have to be a doormat.
But when we come from anger we will only cause damage to ourselves and others. When we are trapped in anger, we are cut off from the rest of the world and all it’s gifts. Were are trapped in a sense of only talking, shouting, only hearing the voice in our own head, insisting that what we know, think or believe is the ONLY way.
Even in high level corporate negotiations, arbitration, mediation and so on, anger is a dead-end in terms of finding real solutions. It leaves us only with a small, so limited sense of small-self.
We can all feel the unpleasant effects of anger on our bodies. The heart racing, the sweat, the body odor (yes!), the shaking, the head-ache, stomach-ache and so forth.
We can all pause and take a breath. On purpose. Right in the moment. Breath in and let go. Do it again.
And once more.
Keep going till you feel ready to reconnect and re-engage with the person or people around you. As the wise child in the video describes; let the glitter in the jar settle to the bottom.
We can say things like:
- I’m going to need a minute.
- Let’s take five, okay?
- How about if we pause for a moment.
- Let’s think about this a bit before we move ahead.
Or, sometimes, you can just call it a potty-break, just to create a little space.