We often discover our own, call them, flaws, blind spots, nasty corners of our nature – anger, greed and so forth, through interacting with others. WHen this happens generally what do we do? We hate that. It makes us uncomfortable and so we try to push the feeling away. Often we lash out at the person who made us see this icky bit of ourselves…as if, our shortcomings were their fault!
Instead we should try our best to see that person as a gift. Bhante Gunaratana, says, In “Mindfulness in Plain English,” that we should thank that person as if they had just helped us excavate some precious gold of gems from a deep cave, so valuable is the discovery of the roots of our un-beneficial behavior.
Cuz we can’t change what we don’t know about. So next time, say, “thank you,” instead of cursing a blue streak.
Students meditating at the beginning of class. And yes, that is Jon Kabat-Zinn’s revised edition of “Full Catastrophe Living.”